Category: Cocreators

  • FULL MOON + ADDICTION.01

    23/05/2024

    CW: (mental health gathering )

    at Engels CafƩ, Berlin

    Afternoon from 5 PM: support group & discussions, free entrance
    Evening from 8PM: bogolepov (songs & talks), donation based

    If you wish to participate or have questions – moon@sicut-dico.com

    Scroll down for more details.

    Why ‘Full Moon’? Here’s what Gene has to say:

    How to control addictions, or why groups help?

    Facing addiction problems alone is hard and scary. Groups can give strength.

    SCHEDULE

    If you want to share your story and talk about your personal addiction issues, come over from 5 PM

    Creative support talk from 6:30 PM

    music healing session by Gene starts at 8 PM

    BASIC RULES
    • talk only if you want to, no pressure
    • no substances consumption during the meeting: water only, no smoking 
    • event is free, donations will help a lot (online donations via mycelium
    MAIN MESSAGES

    the world is broken, not us – how to fix it? we talk. that is a start already!

    we are all different and thus we seek help & recover differently. 

    how to respect that? – i will ask the group each time what would they personally see as triggers.

    what should we avoid doing or saying? so each live gathering might have additional rules according to sensitivities of the participants. please respect them. 

    how to respect our differences and triggers and still talk about addictions openly? please share your ideas or concerns with us via moon@sicut-dico.com

    chicken and egg, IN A NUTSHELL šŸ˜‰

    chicken & egg dilemma or vicious circle, name it as you like, but here it is:

    the more pressure we feel – the more we crave escape – then we develop addictions and need to escape from them too. sometimes we just trade or substitute addictions. but do we really escape?

    we try to ban drugs without understanding that our bodies are the most sophisticated drugs dispensers ever existed, we can’t ban nature. we need to understand and take control. everyone needs to find what makes them happy. sounds easy, yet reality is hard.

    for many of us even basic formula of healthy living is hardly accessible. sensible nutrition and active lifestyle, essential for good mental health and for support of our self-love and self-confidence, become somewhat of a luxury. even the knowledge itself of some specifics of your body is a privilege, as it is only available to those who have access to medical services.

    how to change it? how to survive it?

    together it’s easier. and even though we might not have much money, but what we have is our community. for many rich people it’s an unknown luxury.

    if you feel like it is somehow fucked up, you are right, it is. humanity is going into a dangerous direction.

    but you still can enjoy life.

    YES, YOU CAN!

    IT IS HARD. BUT YOU ARE NOT ALONE

  • Full Moon Addiction 00

    CW: support group / event concept. not a party

    Here is the event concept that I want to dedicate the whole next year to. And it’s not about entertainment. It’s about survival. It is basically a very sophisticated version of an AA support group without god or guilt.

    Why addiction?

    Because I am an addict. And most of us are.

    But I am the lucky one. I learned how to survive and now want to support the ones who are a bit less lucky.

    For whom?

    For everyone who doesn’t fit

    Artists, atheists, sex workers, everyone who has any kind of addiction issues and especially those who don’t find traditional support groups helpful for them.

    The main goal is to put an end to the hopeless cycle of making money with money for money’s sake, but this is a long-term endeavor.

    So we can start by supporting the most vulnerable ones: artists and addicts. Sometimes these groups intersect for whatever reason. 

    When and where?

    Every full moon. Online. And offline from May.

    Updated in May 2024, after receiving initial feedback. It seems that Berlin needs this type of event more than others.

    24/04/2024Full Moon Addiction I: Berlin
    23/05/2024Full Moon Addiction II Berlin
    22/06/2024Full Moon Addiction III ?
    21/07/2024Full Moon Addiction IV ?
    19/08/2024Full Moon Addiction V Berlin

    If you have a location where you want to host us, reach out via moon@sicut-dico.com

    Why?

    In this world, everything has a price. But not everything can be bought with money. No, the world is not black and white. We’re all different. We’re more than two genders, more than good and bad, we’re becoming more complex by the minute.

    We live in a world where equality is synonymous with helplessness. We are prisoners of a rudimentary knowledge of the world. We make children and adults addicted to their own dopamine on a massive scale, and it’s totally legal and called social media. Yet if they manage to smoke a herb that human beings have been using for thousands of years, we prosecute them and deny them a future.

    And I’m not even talking about the responsibilities of the pharmaceutical and food industries on the scale of addictions and other health issues. I don’t want to make things look too dark too quickly. I hope we can learn together how to put an end to this mess. But there is a lot of work.

    My artistic goal here is to build a community of people who agree that the most important things in life are not things. At least, not material things.

    My personal goal is to control my addiction to tobacco and replace it with the euphoria of helping people be themselves. 

    What?

    Donation based tickets will be available 3 weeks before (pay what you can). One week before prices for tickets go up for the first time. Then we are rising prices on the day of the event again. It’s still capitalism, sorry. At least this way certain amount of tickets will be available for lower prices.

    Support group will be available for everyone registered. For free online. Donation based offline.

    We will offer separate tickets or a bundle. Yearly pass option should be available too. Online and offline. Hopefully this way some parts of the event will finance the other.

    How?

    To be notified when tickets are available for the next event, send us an email at moon@sicut-dico.com. And don’t hesitate to share your story with us.

    It is a full day event starting at 12 midday and ending in 10-12 hrs, consisting of 5 blocks:

    AUCTION / AWARD / SUPPORT / REALITY CHECK / HEALING 

    The auction consists of exhibiting and selling a series of works of art. The event will start with the intro of the artworks. The auction itself will take place at the very end of the event.

    Award is actually about humor. I’d like to invite stand up comedians to take part in the event and make it less dramatic. (In April, the prize goes to Germany for legalizing pot and to the police in general. They win a chance to laugh and accept reality together. Also a bit of gratitude. But not all of them. I will explain this personally.) I also invite journalists and politicians to join public debates on the topics. But for the first event I just imagined a 40-50 minutes comedy show with my moderation. My guess here is that we might not be ready to talk about certain things seriously until we get to laugh about them. It’s a theory to test.

    Support consists of inviting all sorts of addicts that don’t fit in other groups, as well as the people who live or work with them, to an honest conversation. Without judgment, but with a consensual exchange of views, feelings and positions. I’ll share part of my story, invite people to share theirs or ask me questions. I went to a number of support groups over the last few years. Some specialized on alcohol, some treating all addictions as sicknesses. Most of them made me feel guilty. Or broken. Yes I could see people there who seemed to be even more broken. Here is my short story.

    I stopped drinking in 2018. Since 2022 I almost live without suicidal thoughts and panic attacks. I regularly support other people with similar issues. I eat and exercise. My health is finally okay and getting better. I work on multiple projects. But I smoke weed. Now I am planning to give up tobacco btw. It bothers me. But I don’t want to give up weed. I don’t smoke every day. Weed is the only drug that doesn’t make me feel like having more and more of it. I can moderate it. It is still an addiction. No plan to argue with that.

    Should I feel broken though? I don’t think so. Moderation is the key. This is what I learned so far about addictions – it is so much easier to control them if we face them, call them by their names, don’t judge or punish, but understand why they form. At this point I simply want to share what helps me. And perhaps offer other people to tell their stories.

    Reality checks will happen for each their own. I intend to talk about issues surrounding substances and addictions. 

    If it comes to my personal routine. I won’t be smoking anything the week leading up to the event. So I can have some sober experience to live through every time and be able to support others. 

    I do not want to promote smoking weed. But I also don’t want to hide if I do so. I think we should simply look for new ways of dealing with addictions. That I can’t imagine happening without dialogue. 

    I would also like to talk about the absurdity of testing strategies used now. Example. If I smoke a lot of THC weed at some point and then stop, get tested a few weeks after, the tests that are used right now most likely will not help me to prove that I didn’t smoke those weeks before. And the general issue of the misperception of good and bad drugs in our society. Or tolerance issues. The hypocrisy we foster out of ignorance will cost us dearly. 

    This part is for the good of future generations of sensitive people like me. We should learn how to not create addicts. Instead of stigmatizing some. Or rewarding others. In the long term I would also like to invite doctors to a discussion and those who can respect my sensitivity could actually examine me, and I’ll be happy to share my knowledge and experience with them.

    photo by sashaperova.com

    The healing session will be led by Gene Bogolepov. She has prepared an intense and sensual 30-minute audiovisual experience. I guess here I wonder if I can have issues with calling a musical performance a healing session. I honestly believe that art can heal. But we are not promising miracles either. The world is broken, not us. 

    Closing of the auction will also be streamed online

    How much?

    free or donation based for support seekers, tickets to the show via mail list, mycelium members – free

    All proceeds from the event above expenses will be donated to Ukraine. 

    The full report will be published on canbed.one

  • Waxplay performance menu

    strategic concept

    As an artist, I’m generally interested in exploring the theme of sex and politics in the same room. I believe it’s still possible not to spoil the party atmosphere, but also to educate and raise awareness while offering new experiences. Please note that I don’t exist solely for entertainment.

    However, as an artist eager to be commercially profitable, I fully understand the need for entertaining activities. So here’s a brief list of possibilities for an interactive waxplay station and shows. My work can be a fast, deep experience that captures all attention for a short time – that’s a package with bogolepov. Alone, I can do all-night performances in a few acts that have different levels of audience interaction.

    As an anti-capitalist, I want to make it clear that I’m open to non-profit work in support of righteous ideas and needs, yet the more commercial the event agenda, the less likely I am to be cheap.

    One sub performance

    This is a great way to get the party started. I can finish setting up my human candlestick in front of the audience, then perform the tests or play with my victim. I usually use the steak thermometer with a needle, and sometimes offer to have the guests help me. Sometimes I ask the victim to hold the thermometer and shout out the number. It all depends on what you want from the show. The softer versions are more elegant. But I can also do more edgy things. It’s important to understand the audience’s expectations.

    Interactive Station

    A station is a place to experiment with different melting-temperature candles, compare them, and learn how to use them safely. When interacting with guests, I personally guide them on how to use the candles, offering safe methods for experimentation or even a quick session. I have several approaches to presenting waxplay and typically choose the one that feels most fitting in the moment while speaking with someone.

    For larger events, I can bring in trained assistants to handle one or two specific scenarios, ensuring more guests can participate while maintaining safety and quality experiences.

    Performances with a group of subs

    I can work on a stage or immerse my show in the venue. 20 years’ experience in event production allows me to guarantee to do the best with what’s available. The more people involved, the more time I need to prepare though. Or more money.

    Waxing myself

    You can look at the photos of my products in the waxplay store to get an idea of what I can do. Yes, I can do it in front of an audience (if the audience is safe). I can also talk to people while I’m doing it. Politics or sex? Both, of course. Again, the level of weirdness can vary: I can be dressed up and wax my feet or… use your imagination depending on your budget.

    Immersive performance with sound and video effects

    with Gene, we offer shadow theater performances, sexual healing dance sets and custom installations with other creatives. To find out more about Gene, click here

    This was originally a summary of a recent conversation with a party organizer. I’ve decided that you all have the right to know what kind of shows I can do. Don’t forget to read the “how to buy me” article if you want to book me.

  • 25.02.2023. WTF people?

    (CW: nudity, politics, art)

    This night was an immersive play in 4 acts and also a social experiment. The first two acts were unfortunately not documented due to organizational issues. But they remain in my memory and I’m sure also in the memories of those who were there that night.

    I had a lot of people approaching me and telling me nice things, like that what I do is real art. It felt good at first. But then I saw how the money jar started filling up with coins, notes and.. business cards.

    This part made me sad somehow. So I’d like to leave questions here. Why do some people think that their opinion is worth more than a few euros? Or is there something wrong with me?

    I’m only here to bring up the questions no else can. That’s my power. The rest is yours.

    That night I went to the club neither to not judge nxor ruin the party mood. I think I wanted answers for myself. I got them and feel grateful.

    Photography: Manuel Calicchia

    (Dear Manuel, thank you for your patience and will to make it work).

    I learned so much that night

    My brave sub was that night both a candle holder and a message carrier. I used their body to hold my laptop and display text slides. They also talked to the guests, played, and explained the slides to them, though at certain moments, this wasn’t an easy task at all.

    Here you can see the slides that they displayed.

    They also wrote this poem after. I think it can partially replace the missing pictures.

    https://sicut-dico.com/2023/03/17/90-seconds-to-midnight/

    THANK YOU SECTION

    Massive thanks to Let’Z Fetish Academy at Kitkatclub Berlin and Ari Denaro personally for letting me take care of the clinic, special thanks to Simon for rescuing the photographer for me, and to Elina and Lilith for being amazing, supportive, but also mean and hot AF!

    My laptop de-branding sticker was designed by Maladie_tattoo.

    MONEY SECTION

    All the money collected that night went to support Ukrainians. If you read until this point I wonder if you are curious  about how much money we actually got.

    I will tell you, I promise. But first I’m asking you to guess the number that you thin it is. Once you submit your guess,  you’ll get the answer. What do you think of it?

  • Look at us. No touching!

    (The offer is expired. No IRL meeting requests (update from 1.06.2024))

    This post is primarily a photo gallery. To read more about us, you can click here for information.

    I bet you want to see more of J’s photos, right? I would too. Enjoy!

    J is a new-age geisha who loves to play as much as she loves to do shamanic sessions. She specializes in femdom, impact and wax play, electro games, and ropes.

    Maybe we’ve piqued your curiosity?

    There are so many ways to get to know J. Maybe you’d like a spanking? Or a tea ceremony, perhaps. Or both at the same time?

    And since we’re here, here are a few photos of me as well, seeing as our collaborative offer is posted now

  • GENDER ID HKBR Day 0 Bodies

    Listen to the full album here

    Bodies

    “Bodies” is Gene’s favorite track from this album, so we started with it.

    I hope we can recall here that our human body is in fact the most sophisticated of all drug dispensers, simply because it can produce unique cocktails specially designed for us.

    I hope we’ll be grateful to our bodies more often.

  • Morning bible reading

    (CW: NSFW)

    A raw clip of Gene’s voice reading my favorite bits of the Bible as we prepare for 31.08.2023.

    Tattoo by kitchentattooer.

    (filmed by Paw Patrol)

    bogolepov + gender id

    kitchen

    Paw patrol

  • Social Media status update for IG junkies

    (CW: NSFW, profanity, nudity, capitalism and mental health)

    As I predicted just a few weeks before – I got blocked on IG. Well. What can I say? I didn’t even start posting the fun stuff. But I’m not surprised.

    I’m not sad about it either. I’m taking this as a badge of honor. Also, no, I’m not going to start over there again. For fuck sake why should I?

    Let me share a piece of text I was writing in a private email about one project related to mental health issues to make it crystal clear at least between us here.

    I don’t believe that YouTube or Instagram are resources for fighting the crisis. They are the cause. Of course, this is my personal judgment based on my experiences. But let me be even more direct: none of these capitalist-based media platforms want to talk about the mental health problems they create.

    Why would they?

    Let’s try to slow down and breathe into this question. Why whoud the companies making billions from people’s screen addiction want to even see this as a problem?

    I’m not saying I will give up on all the people using Instagram daily. Quite the opposite. I’m just not planning to create more accounts there myself. I’ll explain.

    All photos illustrating the social media series represent our collective attitude to the current state of the social media world. Don’t try to make sense of what you see. I mean try but not too hard.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra
    Why do we keep feeding the monster?

    Of course, I understand the crowd effect. They say jump. They always do.

    Of course, it was also convenient for me to use IG to connect with people and get clients.

    It’s been around for so long. It’s almost like some people can’t even imagine the world without it.

    I, gladly, can.

    None of the things they accuse me of are lies. Or wrong. It’s just not okay on IG. I’m simply seeing this as there is no space for me on this platform. Nothing personal. I just have no right to be there according to the rules.

    What I don’t understand is why other people like me keep coming back to IG even though they are being treated like shit by Meta? It’s almost like they accept that there is no alternative to it. They censor themselves. They try to play by the rules. Try to fit in.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra

    But there is something else I’m pretty confident about. I’ve seen what happens when the majority accepts that they have no rights. They lose not only their rights. They lose the ability to make their own choices at all.

    Yes, I’m referring to my experience with russia. I’m afraid I can’t ignore the similarities.

    (Btw, I still have my account on IG with most of the posts in russian. Here it is.)

    To be able to make a choice we need to believe in the existence of options.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra
    Would you like to start a little revolution with me?

    No. I’m not going to invite you to quit Instagram today. I know it’s too much.

    I’m only offering you to consider the existence of different choices, and not just blue pills and red pills. Imagine there are all kinds of colors and you can mix and match.

    You don’t have to make your choice today.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra

    You maybe don’t even have to choose between them at all.

    What you can do today, though, is to light up the match for yourself.

    Do a little research on the topic of decentralized media if you don’t know what it is yet. Look at the history. Ask yourself: do I feel good using Meta products?

    If you are investing your time into any other platform – please just read their terms and conditions. Don’t produce content blindly.

    If you stopped using Meta products and found another way, don’t blame others who can’t do it yet, just share what works for you.

    let’s be kind to each other

    Offering and accepting the idea of different choices. I don’t believe that we can force anything else.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra

    Although on my end I’d like to propose another safety option for sex workers and adult content creators of any kind.

    I’m ready to make and maintain a professional catalog on my website, for now, just a simple list with links and names, so people who don’t have their own website can have a link to share that can’t be blocked, also exchange audiences between independent sex workers, photographers, if they have sites and so on.

    Also, I keep inviting you to look at alternatives to Meta and join the decentralized media world via Mastodon or in any other way. Discover it for yourself. If you like the kind of content that you see here, I promise, you’ll meet more people like me from all over the world.

    What do you think?

    You don’t have to tell me. I mean I’d be glad to hear, too. But. Tell your followers on IG or Twitter. Tell your friends. There’s no universal solution. It’s okay. The only thing I’m trying to convince you to see – there are options.

    if you want to be on this list email me at sw@sicut-dico.com (put “SW catalog” in the subject) – you can apply as a model, as a content creator, as a sex worker, or like me, state yourself as all of this.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra
    What else?

    If you are an active IG user you might want to follow the accounts of my team members, we’ll try to forward most of the important information there to keep you updated.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra

    You can follow the accounts that Sil created recently here and here. They will mirror the most important posts on this website to a degree that IG allows.

    Here you can follow the account mirroring this website.

    This one is for artists and canbedone people.

    If you want to help me dismantle capitalism consider supporting my blog or buying my products.

  • Midyear update for returning users

    (trigger/content)Warnings: money, politics, strong personal opinion, longread, no nudity)

    First of all, I feel very nice to know that I’m not just screaming into the void anymore and have more curious souls landing here daily to watch me.

    Welcome.

    However you got here.

    Who is this post for?

    If you are here to see how my project develops – this post is for you for sure. If you have your own project in development or only plan to start something, feel free to learn from my mistakes. You can send me a blank email to newsletter@sicut-dico.com to get updated without following me on social media.

    But let’s get to the screenshots below. Here I try to show you a bit of the dynamics of returning and new users over the last year according to google analytics.

    My plan is to update you on every 1000 unique users landing here until it gets either too fast or too boring. Now it’s getting more and more interesting every day, but it’s my perspective.

    Let me first explain what it means – to get 1000 unique users on an independent website. But while I’m doing this I’m going to ask you to try to not think of these 1000 users from the perspective if it’s good or bad. It’s neither. It’s just a step. It’s just a number.

    Half of this time or even more I had less than 30 users a month. In December 2022 I published twice more posts as during all the months before.

    I launched the store in April 2023.

    I have around 500 followers on Instagram, less than 300 on Mastodon, below 100 on Chaturbate and Fetlife, below 10 on Reddit.

    I had less than 10 orders through the store. Most candles I sell before taking pictures of them.

    So here I have to ask you and myself to stop evaluating and get back to observing. None of the things mentioned above are good or bad.

    From the side of my expectations, the candle business is going faster than I expected and most of the time I like it, the development of the audience is rather slow though. I guess the perfectionist inside me expected this to happen faster. Like a lot faster.

    Well. I’m very grateful to myself that I could actually take it so slow.

    The spikes represent the moments when I’d posted more actively but in general, I consider my posting activity quite low at this whole time and inconsistent.

    It’s good that it’s slow enough so it’s possible to actually see the magic later. Or the absence of it. Depends how you look, of course. Also, my posting consistency is getting better, obviously.

    But what is the price of this all? I received a lot of feedback. Positive, negative, constructive, judgmental, mixed, carefully sorted. Silence and ignorance count as feedback too. I got plenty.

    Why do I not care for followers on social media? How dare I write so much about myself? Why do I not run ads for myself if I run them for others? How is it so complicated and disturbing? Why do I price myself so high? Do I promise something, but not deliver it? Do I really want to sell candles or do I just want attention?

    generalised feedback from mainstream social media audience

    All those questions I received daily. The most invasive ones come usually as dm’s on Instagram. Some came from people who barely knew me, some from absolute strangers, funny enough even people whom I considered close to me tended to slide into my dm’s with one or two phrases generally telling me that I’m not fulfilling their expectations for some reason.

    That’s one of the things why I don’t like mainstream social media for. Their whole concept is toxic. Especially Facebook products – they are designed to help the black-and-white style of thinking to thrive and consume our souls.

    I’d like to keep mine away from that madness. As much as I can.

    So here is the compromise. I keep running my accounts on the evil soil because I can connect there with other like-minded people. But don’t generate content that benefits the platform and I for sure do not give it my own money anymore.

    If you are one of that returning users, you probably already got that. But I’m trying to make sure we are all on the same page.

    What is going on here now?

    This post is an explanation that will work only for people who are ready to understand. The speed of growth might change soon. So this post is also my intention to document the current statistics and comment on what I consider important to share right now.

    When we were in Greece, I got my old Instagram account unblocked with 6000 users who knew me as a russian-speaking blogger. It returned to me after almost a year-long ban.

    I didn’t advertise this website to them yet. I’m not sure they’ll all like what I have to say here, but I think some will understand.

    Here’s the link btw – if you only know me from my English-speaking side, you may have to use the translation function. It’s also a private account, since I posted anti-Moscow ideas last year I suffered my first bot attack, I don’t need to see it again. I add new real users 2-3 times a week, feel free to knock on my old life door if you’re real.

    Just keep in mind – the person who used to run that blog is dead. I’m not that person anymore. I might have inherited some of the values, perhaps some hobbies, but not all the stuff by far.

    I like how innocently touristic we look here with Gene

    That’s exactly why I created this site. To grow my own bubble of people who appreciate the same things and care about feelings in the same way. But this time with no chance for any platform to take away my right to connect with those who chose to connect with the new version of me. And it’s happening.

    Well. Like everything that happens to me, it’s a bit wild and full of complications, but it’s okay.

    Store orders, bookings and emails

    I’m still more or less a one-person operation. The people who help me are listed as co-creators but they all have their own projects, so I’m open to hiring more assistants for canbed.one purpose, my kinky projects and the general goal of the destruction of capitalism, but this will be unfolded in another post.

    I’m at least a week behind on emails, I’ll catch up by the end of this week.

    Shop orders are already underway, if you’ve ordered candles you’ll get updates by tomorrow evening

    I’m fully booked for July and August. If you’re thinking of hiring me this year, please get in touch now.

    What’s the plan further?

    Have I ever said that I dream to fuck capitalism with its own relics?

    It’s not just a pretentious phrase. My dreams have a high chance of becoming real if I focus on them. That’s exactly the part of the magic I’m trying to show you. Or the absence of it.

    But it’s not an easy task either. I’m going to need your help.

    I intend to keep going on the energy exchange where I give what I have to give, and those who have the intention to take the gifts can take them anytime they feel ready. The story will only get better with time.

    Next station is: money making factory

    Here we are getting to the part of the story that you can’t see at all unless I expose it

    My financial results from this project. (You can see the euro symbol on the screenshots, but google analytics doesn’t represent reality) Also, I need a good accountant to give you better money stats, but let’s start with some numbers today.

    In the first year, I got a bit more than 200 EUR from less than 15 people.

    In the last two months, I got more than 2000 EUR (from how many people – impossible to say, that’s why I need an accountant).

    But I think those who want to understand my point about sharing money dynamics got the point. Or hopefully a few points. I have no intention to write them down here, it’s too early. But I want to write a few more questions here.

    1. Would it be possible for me to even go this way without having a financial backup pillow from my old life?
    2. If I, a professional marketing specialist and business owner with 10+ years of experience, feel frustrated sometimes while promoting myself because it’s a completely different story, then how the hell are other artists without all this experience supposed to handle all this shit?
    3. Can we change the situation by exchanging our experiences more openly, actively, and with a higher level of transparency?
    4. How does talking about money often makes you feel?
    5. Have you ever thought about how useful it is to preserve the current state of the financial system if everyone more or less avoids talking about money unless absolutely necessary or feels uncomfortable asking for payments?

    Anyway. Call me crazy, but I want to live in a world where paying for something or being paid for something aren’t off-putting topics.

    There’s no shame in exchanging resources or power consensually.

    In this world, everything has a price. We pay with money, our time or our health, our kindness or our reputation, and some things cost some of us our lives. Nothing is free. We are the essential result of an exchange of energy, whether we like it or not. But the part where right now most of us are born already in debt does not have to stay.

    I’m sorry if that’s complicated.

    That’s why I’m here asking you to be patient and kind. I slowly understand myself and allow you to see the world as I see it. As I feel it. Not to make you feel the same. Not to evaluate things as right or wrong.

    I don’t have all the answers.

    I’m only the impulse.

    So the next step is the one where I help Gene with their financial strategy and focus on making communication about money more comfortable for us all.

    If you like what I’m doing you can support my blog here. If you want to follow our discussion about money specifically – send us a blank email with the word “money” in the subject field to newsletter@sicut-dico.com.

    Since you’re still here, let me give you a quick example of the toxicity of modern media. This is a photo of Gene eating seafood (which I paid for) after having a horrible, expensive coffee for breakfast (which I also paid for). It was literally the only enjoyable food we’d eaten in the last 48 hours, while Gene worked for me in multiple roles, 10-12 hours a day. But if you don’t know all this background and you see Gene asking for money for her grocery bills the next day, will you feel like helping her?
  • SW support group June

    NSFW

    Let’s keep it here for the record. No matter what I start doing in this life – I have those moments of self-doubt. If I should really do what I have imagined?

    I was rather unhappy with how I handled this group in May, I could have done so much better I thought. I even thought about shutting down this project once or twice.

    ALWAYS. Every fucking time.

    The only reason things are happening in my life – I don’t let the doubts win. I always have to try and see what happens next. And almost always it is worth the effort.

    So let’s try to keep going. This month I think I’m more or less happy with the messages that I’ve prepared for you. The recording is below with time codes by block.

    Here is the email for your questions or requests to join in whatever format – sw@sicut-dico.com

    Also

    In the video, I’m mentioning that I consider sex work to be performance art. I highly recommend looking into Marina Abramovich’s view of performance art essentials for everyone who would want to join my perspective. Start with this lecture for instance.

    00:00 – part 1/6 – organizational block; communication request: what is support for you? invitation to try different formats

    10:25 – part 2/6 – undressing and bla-bla – nothing meaningful, just the moment where I’m getting naked

    12:50 – part 4/6 – preaching: sex work is a kind of performance art (why we need more happy sw’s to save the world)

    30:00 – part 4/6 – explaining my web strategy pillars: safety, sensitivity, clear borders, warnings, and small steps. Everything in this world has a price.

    46:34 – part 5/6 – comments on my own website

    54:10 – task talk with white and unsorted stuff, a bit of preaching, also the moment where I explain why we will get banned on IG.

    If you like what I’m doing, please, help to spread the word about my project or consider supporting my blog.