Sicut-Dico

Category: Rules

  • Waxy update or how dare I

    (CW: marketing, strong personal opinion, suicide, war mentions)

    In the more than a year that the shop has been in existence, I’ve received enough complaints that the whole concept is simply disturbing, confusing and above all that the user has to wonder who is Oxxxymiron, or who is Marina Abramovich, or if they know both, some are even more confused and annoyed that I’ve dared to name them in one place. Since this distracts them from the product, they leave the page before buying. What a shame.

    We live in an age of reactions and post-reactions. People see what they want to see. I have to explain myself if I want my message to remain clear. So… If this project is close to your heart in any way and you need clarification, here it is. Please read carefully. Words underlined in rainbow are links.

    Wax play store update

    It was always and foremost an artistic project. The performance is still going on as this is being read. Making money with this shop was never the main objective. Although all the candles I produced sold out almost immediately, that’s the main reason why the shop is empty today: I don’t have the time.

    So what’s the point of creating such a mess if I don’t even make money from it?

    Because I could and felt obliged to do it. And that’s still the case today. No regrets. Only advantages. I still can make candles any time I need them, so I have the product for myself. I can always make some extra cash with it if I need to. I have amazing collaboration tool. I can go on and on, but here is the cherry on the top of my cake of reasons to do what I did.

    Even if you find this page and this idea utterly disturbing and never buy my candles, all I need is for you to wonder about one of the names I’ve mentioned. The power of art will do the rest.

    Technical part. How to get the candles

    For now, the only way to get them soon is through Gene’s Mycelium, we have a unique batch that we made in Portugal this winter and we will be giving it away to the fan base first.

    Please don’t send me offers based on making money from my ideas. If you need candles in large quantities and of any quality, I’m not your dealer either.

    If you want to make your own candles or collab on this topic, email me, I need help and I can teach you.

    For wax play performance requests, check out this article.

    Ideological part

    Now let’s get to the part where I try to explain the connection with the names. And trying is the key word here. Those who are not ready to understand will always find a reason to be offended or whatever.

    Why Marina

    If our planet had to choose the art ambassador to send to an assembly with other civilizations, I wouldn’t think of another candidate. If she says no, she will probably propose a suitable alternative. So we should ask her anyway.

    Her work embodies the curiosity and honesty I’ve found hard to embrace in myself. She’s not afraid to do so many things that others can’t even imagine. She understands this world so much clearer and, what’s particularly important to me, she shares it with other people. She is one of the bravest and most selfless artists.

    Check her lecture about Artist body. This is her institute.

    Why Miron

    If the Kremlin’s investigative committee wasn’t campaigning for him, I’d never have listened to his music. But I did and now I’m hooked. I listen to a few songs in the shower almost daily and it helps me deal with my anger.

    This is the only artist i bought a ticket and went to a live show since pandemic. If you know me you should know how much it speaks for the artist.

    I know all the lyrics aren’t accessible to English speakers, but if you want to try it, do. It’s hard to recommend where to start, but below are links to songs from different years that I listen to particularly often.

    The last call (2010) is an officially extremist song about school shootings. Oida (2022) the re-assembling set in my store was inspired by this song. This one is fresh.

    This whole mixtape I would recommend to play extra loud if you have some russian speaking neighbors. Solid character test.

    How dare I

    Because I want to live in a world where we’re not afraid to say: you inspired me to create! Where we treat each other first and foremost as human beings with feelings.

    I understand how privileged I am to be able to simply allow myself to create a product that is not designed to be sold to all. I also understand the confusion. Even the attacks and demands.

    I am grateful beyond words for all of it.

    I wouldn’t be who I am today without the artists I mention on this site. If any of them ask me to remove their name, I will.

    Please don’t take offense on their behalf though. Here’s an open letter to the creators and influences mentioned on this page or likely to be mentioned in the future.

    Here is a gallery of photos from the candle making session in Portugal.

  • Waxplay performance menu

    strategic concept

    As an artist, I’m generally interested in exploring the theme of sex and politics in the same room. I believe it’s still possible not to spoil the party atmosphere, but also to educate and raise awareness while offering new experiences. Please note that I don’t exist solely for entertainment.

    However, as an artist eager to be commercially profitable, I fully understand the need for entertaining activities. So here’s a brief list of possibilities for an interactive waxplay station and shows. My work can be a fast, deep experience that captures all attention for a short time – that’s a package with bogolepov. Alone, I can do all-night performances in a few acts that have different levels of audience interaction.

    As an anti-capitalist, I want to make it clear that I’m open to non-profit work in support of righteous ideas and needs, yet the more commercial the event agenda, the less likely I am to be cheap.

    One sub performance

    This is a great way to get the party started. I can finish setting up my human candlestick in front of the audience, then perform the tests or play with my victim. I usually use the steak thermometer with a needle, and sometimes offer to have the guests help me. Sometimes I ask the victim to hold the thermometer and shout out the number. It all depends on what you want from the show. The softer versions are more elegant. But I can also do more edgy things. It’s important to understand the audience’s expectations.

    Interactive Station

    A station is a place to experiment with different melting-temperature candles, compare them, and learn how to use them safely. When interacting with guests, I personally guide them on how to use the candles, offering safe methods for experimentation or even a quick session. I have several approaches to presenting waxplay and typically choose the one that feels most fitting in the moment while speaking with someone.

    For larger events, I can bring in trained assistants to handle one or two specific scenarios, ensuring more guests can participate while maintaining safety and quality experiences.

    Performances with a group of subs

    I can work on a stage or immerse my show in the venue. 20 years’ experience in event production allows me to guarantee to do the best with what’s available. The more people involved, the more time I need to prepare though. Or more money.

    Waxing myself

    You can look at the photos of my products in the waxplay store to get an idea of what I can do. Yes, I can do it in front of an audience (if the audience is safe). I can also talk to people while I’m doing it. Politics or sex? Both, of course. Again, the level of weirdness can vary: I can be dressed up and wax my feet or… use your imagination depending on your budget.

    Immersive performance with sound and video effects

    with Gene, we offer shadow theater performances, sexual healing dance sets and custom installations with other creatives. To find out more about Gene, click here

    This was originally a summary of a recent conversation with a party organizer. I’ve decided that you all have the right to know what kind of shows I can do. Don’t forget to read the “how to buy me” article if you want to book me.

  • Social Media status update for IG junkies

    (CW: NSFW, profanity, nudity, capitalism and mental health)

    As I predicted just a few weeks before – I got blocked on IG. Well. What can I say? I didn’t even start posting the fun stuff. But I’m not surprised.

    I’m not sad about it either. I’m taking this as a badge of honor. Also, no, I’m not going to start over there again. For fuck sake why should I?

    Let me share a piece of text I was writing in a private email about one project related to mental health issues to make it crystal clear at least between us here.

    I don’t believe that YouTube or Instagram are resources for fighting the crisis. They are the cause. Of course, this is my personal judgment based on my experiences. But let me be even more direct: none of these capitalist-based media platforms want to talk about the mental health problems they create.

    Why would they?

    Let’s try to slow down and breathe into this question. Why whoud the companies making billions from people’s screen addiction want to even see this as a problem?

    I’m not saying I will give up on all the people using Instagram daily. Quite the opposite. I’m just not planning to create more accounts there myself. I’ll explain.

    All photos illustrating the social media series represent our collective attitude to the current state of the social media world. Don’t try to make sense of what you see. I mean try but not too hard.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra
    Why do we keep feeding the monster?

    Of course, I understand the crowd effect. They say jump. They always do.

    Of course, it was also convenient for me to use IG to connect with people and get clients.

    It’s been around for so long. It’s almost like some people can’t even imagine the world without it.

    I, gladly, can.

    None of the things they accuse me of are lies. Or wrong. It’s just not okay on IG. I’m simply seeing this as there is no space for me on this platform. Nothing personal. I just have no right to be there according to the rules.

    What I don’t understand is why other people like me keep coming back to IG even though they are being treated like shit by Meta? It’s almost like they accept that there is no alternative to it. They censor themselves. They try to play by the rules. Try to fit in.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra

    But there is something else I’m pretty confident about. I’ve seen what happens when the majority accepts that they have no rights. They lose not only their rights. They lose the ability to make their own choices at all.

    Yes, I’m referring to my experience with russia. I’m afraid I can’t ignore the similarities.

    (Btw, I still have my account on IG with most of the posts in russian. Here it is.)

    To be able to make a choice we need to believe in the existence of options.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra
    Would you like to start a little revolution with me?

    No. I’m not going to invite you to quit Instagram today. I know it’s too much.

    I’m only offering you to consider the existence of different choices, and not just blue pills and red pills. Imagine there are all kinds of colors and you can mix and match.

    You don’t have to make your choice today.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra

    You maybe don’t even have to choose between them at all.

    What you can do today, though, is to light up the match for yourself.

    Do a little research on the topic of decentralized media if you don’t know what it is yet. Look at the history. Ask yourself: do I feel good using Meta products?

    If you are investing your time into any other platform – please just read their terms and conditions. Don’t produce content blindly.

    If you stopped using Meta products and found another way, don’t blame others who can’t do it yet, just share what works for you.

    let’s be kind to each other

    Offering and accepting the idea of different choices. I don’t believe that we can force anything else.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra

    Although on my end I’d like to propose another safety option for sex workers and adult content creators of any kind.

    I’m ready to make and maintain a professional catalog on my website, for now, just a simple list with links and names, so people who don’t have their own website can have a link to share that can’t be blocked, also exchange audiences between independent sex workers, photographers, if they have sites and so on.

    Also, I keep inviting you to look at alternatives to Meta and join the decentralized media world via Mastodon or in any other way. Discover it for yourself. If you like the kind of content that you see here, I promise, you’ll meet more people like me from all over the world.

    What do you think?

    You don’t have to tell me. I mean I’d be glad to hear, too. But. Tell your followers on IG or Twitter. Tell your friends. There’s no universal solution. It’s okay. The only thing I’m trying to convince you to see – there are options.

    if you want to be on this list email me at sw@sicut-dico.com (put “SW catalog” in the subject) – you can apply as a model, as a content creator, as a sex worker, or like me, state yourself as all of this.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra
    What else?

    If you are an active IG user you might want to follow the accounts of my team members, we’ll try to forward most of the important information there to keep you updated.

    Photo by WhiteOrchestra

    You can follow the accounts that Sil created recently here and here. They will mirror the most important posts on this website to a degree that IG allows.

    Here you can follow the account mirroring this website.

    This one is for artists and canbedone people.

    If you want to help me dismantle capitalism consider supporting my blog or buying my products.

  • Ultimate warnings

    Please, read the content warnings in my posts carefully and do not continue if you feel uncomfortable. Ask for help. Or just ignore me.

    This post is my response to all sorts of unwanted feedback I’ve received so far and will be receiving in the future.

    it’s OK not to like what I do
    I didn’t choose to be born the way I am.

    it’s okay not to understand why I do what I do
    It’s fine to be confused. Be kind to yourself. That’s what we should all try to do more often.

    It’s OK to be different
    I don’t want to lose myself in self-promotion, but the world needs to know how I feel.

    Creating freedom is far more important than reach. So I refuse to waste my life on platforms like IG. It’s toxic for me and too fake. Even if most people will never click on my links and get to know the real me. That’s okay. Some will.

    I ask you to pay attention to my openness and not to play with the powers that come with it. I don’t exist to entertain you or for you to judge me.

    I exist to connect minds and build new bridges.

    This is my playground. My temple. And my artistic study (all that and so much more).

    Not everyone is ready for me. But if you understand me. Or at least want to try, you’re always welcome here. Feel free to be weird. Be yourself.

    There’s nothing wrong with asking questions. I think it’s cool to be curious. Remember how different we can be.

    just mind the content warnings!

    Love you,

    Sicut

  • Custom pick up

    The custom pick-up option means that your order will be delivered to a location in the city and available there to pick up for 2 weeks for free. The option appears if you set your billing address to Berlin and Prague, soon I’ll add similar options for Paris and London. The exact locations will be disclosed in the final email with order details.

  • How to support my work?

    Donations will be used to pay my bills and or support my team. Some accounts have specific goals—choose with your heart.

    If you have a stable income, consider a monthly donation. Let’s redistribute wealth right now! 💸🔥

    If you would like recognition for your donations don’t hesitate to let me know, I’ll be glad to expose your support and return the favor by spreading the word about you among my audience.

    Ko-Fi

    https://ko-fi.com/sicut_dico

    Donations will be used to support my Kyiv-based assistant – Sil and her children.

    crypto

    ETH: 0x0cEc78A779ae0eF4eC8C6bDE09BD2070a776A38b

    BTC: bc1q707r0wjma888fmng3u63ftga4ede6trjdddztc

    SOL: GDHuVpVU3Hn7eabRedGhtSpz6iqvwPNq4S9hi4CAAcuD

    LTC: ltc1qg95esaspvy9fyq6wmej5kdh4c9d0rrj3jaz4d4

    DOGE: D6of6KdcK7Z6EtuDqqwhKXcs1KtM56uFDf

    THRONE

    https://throne.com/sicut_dico

  • Waxplay 101

    I’m grateful that you decided to try my candles, and if it’s your first time, the basic info below is meant to make your experience safer.

    Please read it carefully before playing!

    what do you need to know about waxplay to enjoy it?

    No hard rules have to be followed apart from consent and safety. Things can be very, very, VERY different:

    • sensual and slow with single drops,
    • intense and intriguing with solid streams of wax,
    • in combination with impact play,
    • mixed with sex toys,
    • also, you can turn your Sub into a human candle holder.

    Whatever you do, you can absolutely do it and, (as other strangers on the internet would confirm, you have the right to choose whatever suits you best to explore your kinks. Do what you like, if it’s safe and consensual, everything else is totally optional).

    screenshot from https://kinky.business/@spanksandsnacks

    Below I only describe things so you might consider them, but only the person lighting up the candle knows exactly how the play will go from there.

    This is where the control exchange begins and all the beauty of it.


    negotiation

    Consensual power exchange starts with respect to this power on both ends. Being in charge is also a responsibility. At least this is how I see it.

    Every session must begin with the negotiation stage and the party starts right after. For shy people, I can recommend negotiating some details in text messages (it’s always helpful to give all sides enough time to think things through), but I personally enjoy having little chats with my victims face-to-face about the following topics:

    • safe words (red, green, yellow – always work well);
    • areas on the skin where the wax will be applied and where it should not go;
    • what else is going to happen or what should not happen;
    • where exactly will the play happen (because waxplay can be messy)?

    Wax play is essentially pain play, and even though my candles can be quite mild, the whole point of the game is to produce the chemicals in our brains. And as far as I know for those fuckers pain and pleasure can be exactly the same thing. But how to get there – everyone has their own unique recipe.

    room preparations

    Well, let’s start with the practical side: you might want to care for the furniture, leather surfaces, and carpets because it might be difficult to clean the wax from them.

    You also might want to plan the escape path to the bathroom or shower for your victim.

    If I have to improvise I usually use a bedsheet to cover the floor or wherever the sub is placed, or I cut a few big garbage bags and tape them to the floor.


    A good Pain game takes time and patience

    It starts with making sure everything goes through the steps so the pain level increases slowly. It’s always nice to start with hands. Just spank the spot. Or massage if you want to keep things sensual.

    Everyone is different, don’t assume, ask. Explore together with your partner(s).

    Always try new candles on your own skin. Ask your partner about allergies. Ideally – make a little test before playing.

    do and don’ts 
    • be careful, and remember the pain delay: the drop lands and heats a few seconds longer (try for yourself)
    • do spank, massage, or pet the area before
    • do combine with other practices and sex toys
    • do ask for feedback (at the beginning especially)
    • be creative and enjoy the mess
    • don’t surprise people with waxplay
    • don’t play with intoxicated people and watch yourself with substances
    • don’t ignore the fire safety basics
    • don’t play in an environment or location that will hate you for the wax after
    • don’t use candles as dildos! (they soften from body temperature)

    where to put wax and not 
    • first, start with a 20 cm distance between skin and flame, don get too close to the skin!
    • keep the wax away from the eyes and ears
    • be careful with hair
    • genitals are okay, but only after gaining specific consent
    Removing wax

    Removing the wax from the skin is much easier once it’s completely cooled down.

    Thicker layers of wax fall off in bigger pieces, while single drops might stick to the skin more. You can try to prolong the play and scratch the wax from the skin with nails or something made of metal. Another fun activity is to whip the wax from the skin with a flogger, but I’m not sure if it’s still about basics.

    aftercare

    Give the Sub some peace after the session. No jumping around for the first 5-10 min, and in general the longer the play was – the longer the aftercare should be. Of course, everyone is different, and some people might feel very active and elevated after, while some are tired and empty.

    Applying creme or aloe vera gel on the skin after the session might be very pleasurable and recommended as part of an excellent aftercare protocol.

    After long painful sessions, aftercare is essential and is highly important to help process the experience and leave the most positive memory of the play.

    Here is the video that I promised you earlier. I hope you have some fun watching us with Lishka. Let me know what you think!

  • Social media statement

    The world of social media is way too fucked up to take it seriously.

    This website is my main resource and the best way to stay updated about new posts here is to send me a blank email to newsletter@sicut-dico.com

    All social media accounts are run by me and if you behave nicely I’m totally reachable.

    Mastodon is my favorite bubble, for now, so I feed it with nudes from time to time.

    Accounts on Instagram and Reddit are mirroring this website. I don’t generate content for them. I still like to connect with people there but keep in mind, I’m highly allergic to unwanted advice and stupidity.

    You can follow me on Chaturbate to get for sure notified when I’m online.

    For specific fetish events, requests, and more info on how to serve me go to Fetlife (friend requests accepted from people that I met IRL only).

  • As I say

    First things first: this is a queer space where respect is a top priority, so
    please be kind to each other and then feel free to be weird as well. There is no place for judgment.

    Now we get to another important topic. Which is – me, of course. What else could this blog even be about? It´s about my dark side as well as it´s about self-love, acceptance, vulnerability, and control. Or the absence of control for some.

    First I wrote: “It’s about becoming a Mistress.” – but it´s not exactly correct, I have to tell you because there is no becoming of any kind happening inside me. Unleashing – perhaps is a better term. Mistress has been there the whole time, not sure if it´s just her alone. I could describe the process as an inventory of possible personas and characters hidden inside me. Some of them are more ready to get out than others, but I can guarantee, that even for me this is highly fascinating.

    What else? I like to introduce myself as a kind pervert, a passionate exhibitionist, and a curious explorer of the limits and borders of my own and others. On my non-kinky side, I´m happily partnered for life, living in an open marriage, low carb enthusiast, a marketing strategist, and mental health activist. But this blog also has a sub-task of teaching me to take myself less seriously, so let´s stick to the kinky part.

    Anyways! In my quest for world domination, I decided to start with your butt. So pants down because I will spank it with stories of my kinky explorations.

    If you like what I do consider supporting my work or follow me on social media and help spreading the word about me, whatever you choose, you are welcome here.