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Category: Candles

  • Waxy update or how dare I

    (CW: marketing, strong personal opinion, suicide, war mentions)

    In the more than a year that the shop has been in existence, I’ve received enough complaints that the whole concept is simply disturbing, confusing and above all that the user has to wonder who is Oxxxymiron, or who is Marina Abramovich, or if they know both, some are even more confused and annoyed that I’ve dared to name them in one place. Since this distracts them from the product, they leave the page before buying. What a shame.

    We live in an age of reactions and post-reactions. People see what they want to see. I have to explain myself if I want my message to remain clear. So… If this project is close to your heart in any way and you need clarification, here it is. Please read carefully. Words underlined in rainbow are links.

    Wax play store update

    It was always and foremost an artistic project. The performance is still going on as this is being read. Making money with this shop was never the main objective. Although all the candles I produced sold out almost immediately, that’s the main reason why the shop is empty today: I don’t have the time.

    So what’s the point of creating such a mess if I don’t even make money from it?

    Because I could and felt obliged to do it. And that’s still the case today. No regrets. Only advantages. I still can make candles any time I need them, so I have the product for myself. I can always make some extra cash with it if I need to. I have amazing collaboration tool. I can go on and on, but here is the cherry on the top of my cake of reasons to do what I did.

    Even if you find this page and this idea utterly disturbing and never buy my candles, all I need is for you to wonder about one of the names I’ve mentioned. The power of art will do the rest.

    Technical part. How to get the candles

    For now, the only way to get them soon is through Gene’s Mycelium, we have a unique batch that we made in Portugal this winter and we will be giving it away to the fan base first.

    Please don’t send me offers based on making money from my ideas. If you need candles in large quantities and of any quality, I’m not your dealer either.

    If you want to make your own candles or collab on this topic, email me, I need help and I can teach you.

    For wax play performance requests, check out this article.

    Ideological part

    Now let’s get to the part where I try to explain the connection with the names. And trying is the key word here. Those who are not ready to understand will always find a reason to be offended or whatever.

    Why Marina

    If our planet had to choose the art ambassador to send to an assembly with other civilizations, I wouldn’t think of another candidate. If she says no, she will probably propose a suitable alternative. So we should ask her anyway.

    Her work embodies the curiosity and honesty I’ve found hard to embrace in myself. She’s not afraid to do so many things that others can’t even imagine. She understands this world so much clearer and, what’s particularly important to me, she shares it with other people. She is one of the bravest and most selfless artists.

    Check her lecture about Artist body. This is her institute.

    Why Miron

    If the Kremlin’s investigative committee wasn’t campaigning for him, I’d never have listened to his music. But I did and now I’m hooked. I listen to a few songs in the shower almost daily and it helps me deal with my anger.

    This is the only artist i bought a ticket and went to a live show since pandemic. If you know me you should know how much it speaks for the artist.

    I know all the lyrics aren’t accessible to English speakers, but if you want to try it, do. It’s hard to recommend where to start, but below are links to songs from different years that I listen to particularly often.

    The last call (2010) is an officially extremist song about school shootings. Oida (2022) the re-assembling set in my store was inspired by this song. This one is fresh.

    This whole mixtape I would recommend to play extra loud if you have some russian speaking neighbors. Solid character test.

    How dare I

    Because I want to live in a world where we’re not afraid to say: you inspired me to create! Where we treat each other first and foremost as human beings with feelings.

    I understand how privileged I am to be able to simply allow myself to create a product that is not designed to be sold to all. I also understand the confusion. Even the attacks and demands.

    I am grateful beyond words for all of it.

    I wouldn’t be who I am today without the artists I mention on this site. If any of them ask me to remove their name, I will.

    Please don’t take offense on their behalf though. Here’s an open letter to the creators and influences mentioned on this page or likely to be mentioned in the future.

    Here is a gallery of photos from the candle making session in Portugal.

  • Custom pick up

    The custom pick-up option means that your order will be delivered to a location in the city and available there to pick up for 2 weeks for free. The option appears if you set your billing address to Berlin and Prague, soon I’ll add similar options for Paris and London. The exact locations will be disclosed in the final email with order details.

  • Waxplay 101

    I’m grateful that you decided to try my candles, and if it’s your first time, the basic info below is meant to make your experience safer.

    Please read it carefully before playing!

    what do you need to know about waxplay to enjoy it?

    No hard rules have to be followed apart from consent and safety. Things can be very, very, VERY different:

    • sensual and slow with single drops,
    • intense and intriguing with solid streams of wax,
    • in combination with impact play,
    • mixed with sex toys,
    • also, you can turn your Sub into a human candle holder.

    Whatever you do, you can absolutely do it and, (as other strangers on the internet would confirm, you have the right to choose whatever suits you best to explore your kinks. Do what you like, if it’s safe and consensual, everything else is totally optional).

    screenshot from https://kinky.business/@spanksandsnacks

    Below I only describe things so you might consider them, but only the person lighting up the candle knows exactly how the play will go from there.

    This is where the control exchange begins and all the beauty of it.


    negotiation

    Consensual power exchange starts with respect to this power on both ends. Being in charge is also a responsibility. At least this is how I see it.

    Every session must begin with the negotiation stage and the party starts right after. For shy people, I can recommend negotiating some details in text messages (it’s always helpful to give all sides enough time to think things through), but I personally enjoy having little chats with my victims face-to-face about the following topics:

    • safe words (red, green, yellow – always work well);
    • areas on the skin where the wax will be applied and where it should not go;
    • what else is going to happen or what should not happen;
    • where exactly will the play happen (because waxplay can be messy)?

    Wax play is essentially pain play, and even though my candles can be quite mild, the whole point of the game is to produce the chemicals in our brains. And as far as I know for those fuckers pain and pleasure can be exactly the same thing. But how to get there – everyone has their own unique recipe.

    room preparations

    Well, let’s start with the practical side: you might want to care for the furniture, leather surfaces, and carpets because it might be difficult to clean the wax from them.

    You also might want to plan the escape path to the bathroom or shower for your victim.

    If I have to improvise I usually use a bedsheet to cover the floor or wherever the sub is placed, or I cut a few big garbage bags and tape them to the floor.


    A good Pain game takes time and patience

    It starts with making sure everything goes through the steps so the pain level increases slowly. It’s always nice to start with hands. Just spank the spot. Or massage if you want to keep things sensual.

    Everyone is different, don’t assume, ask. Explore together with your partner(s).

    Always try new candles on your own skin. Ask your partner about allergies. Ideally – make a little test before playing.

    do and don’ts 
    • be careful, and remember the pain delay: the drop lands and heats a few seconds longer (try for yourself)
    • do spank, massage, or pet the area before
    • do combine with other practices and sex toys
    • do ask for feedback (at the beginning especially)
    • be creative and enjoy the mess
    • don’t surprise people with waxplay
    • don’t play with intoxicated people and watch yourself with substances
    • don’t ignore the fire safety basics
    • don’t play in an environment or location that will hate you for the wax after
    • don’t use candles as dildos! (they soften from body temperature)

    where to put wax and not 
    • first, start with a 20 cm distance between skin and flame, don get too close to the skin!
    • keep the wax away from the eyes and ears
    • be careful with hair
    • genitals are okay, but only after gaining specific consent
    Removing wax

    Removing the wax from the skin is much easier once it’s completely cooled down.

    Thicker layers of wax fall off in bigger pieces, while single drops might stick to the skin more. You can try to prolong the play and scratch the wax from the skin with nails or something made of metal. Another fun activity is to whip the wax from the skin with a flogger, but I’m not sure if it’s still about basics.

    aftercare

    Give the Sub some peace after the session. No jumping around for the first 5-10 min, and in general the longer the play was – the longer the aftercare should be. Of course, everyone is different, and some people might feel very active and elevated after, while some are tired and empty.

    Applying creme or aloe vera gel on the skin after the session might be very pleasurable and recommended as part of an excellent aftercare protocol.

    After long painful sessions, aftercare is essential and is highly important to help process the experience and leave the most positive memory of the play.

    Here is the video that I promised you earlier. I hope you have some fun watching us with Lishka. Let me know what you think!

  • Snapshots and backstage of the camming experience

    Updated. Here is a minute of vertical material from my phone. Later I’ll spill parts of it on social media, but patrons get it al now.

    This time we made 10 candles, got 3 tokens of tips, some new followers, nice compliments, and dumb questions, of course.

    I definitely enjoyed the part about being watched but it’s we know this already.

    Knowing that I’m probably confusing the shit out of the audience by not playing menu games or anything that they used to expect there adds a special flavor.

    I also liked the part where I chained my Elf to the stairs and went for a break. We should do this more often.

    Tomorrow I plan to not only make candles but test them and take pictures of them for the store.

    Will try to start around 8:30 am

  • The first half of the reflection posts is published for patrons and the other half of last year (which I would love to publish) is still a huge pile of content to process. Technically and emotionally – both. Some events require more time to understand how I feel about them.

    Even though this post was also rotting in drafts for a while and I happen to devalue myself twice a day, it looks like the art of small steps is still working for me. Some progress is still happening.

    déjà vu

    Now I’m at the funny stage where it’s already time to have money coming from projects, but instead, I have another identity crisis to deal with. I’m not sure if it is a good thing in general, but I became so familiar with those crises, so it doesn’t even feel like a big drama. The world is falling apart anyway.

    Money topics used to be terribly unsexy for me by default and my project is partly helping to change this statement. I’m as curious as you are to see where it brings us.

    I heard so many people already telling me that my ideas are stupid and pointless, so I can’t wait to act and see for myself.

    Candle store

    In a few days, I’ll launch the candle store on my website, where only patrons and friends will get access first. Since I can’t produce more than 10 candles a day anyway they always will be up to limited availability.

    The first drop will be only available (to pick up) in Europe, a bit later I hope to offer worldwide delivery.

    The slightly crazy part is that I want to stream the process of making candles to smth like Chaturbate or so. I’m setting up an account there and planning the first stream for the next week. I think it should add to the uniqueness of the candles as well as entertain my inner exhibitionist. Would you watch me?

    Here is the video from our camera test with Sil last Wednesday btw.

    With a webcam deal, I won’t feel too bored too fast with this whole business hustle. Hopefully. Because now while making all the calculations, business plans, and procedures I can’t say I felt like it was something I want to do a lot.

    BUT. We all need money, and some of us also need good waxplay candles. Perhaps we can make each other slightly happier at this point.

    If you know me and would like to try my candles in exchange for exposure and honest feedback – contact me asap

    If you like my idea and would be curious to see how it develops, please support me and here is how:

    HOW TO SUPPORT ME

    or

    HOW TO BUY ME

  • My candle project intro is coming…

    …but not as fast as I would want it to.

    Yesterday was a day of technical misery and frustration; I was too ambitious about my plans and didn’t think everything through.

    So the issue was, that from two cameras only one was recording 😞.
    We will try again next week to make a proper tutorial for patrons.

    But for now, I just squeezed the 20 minutes into a single one, so we all can enjoy the butt of my lovely friend Lishka💕, who actually tried waxplay for the first time yesterday!

    Also, she could confirm that some of the candles are pretty mild.
    On the edge of boring.
    So we’re looking to fix that 🔥for the next time too.