Sicut-Dico

Category: People

  • team and friends

    UPD 22.03.2023

    I was postponing this post for a while because I wanted it to be perfect. But friendship is not about being perfect, it’s about staying in touch and helping each other to move forward.

    Same for teamwork. This post continues the “about me” storyline. I don’t function without people. And I decided to start with one, who is getting more helpful every day and making the blog finally live its life. I hope this post will get her some appreciation that she deserves.

    Say hello to Sil!

    Sil, photo by Whiteorcherstra

    Sil is my assistant. We met on tinder, and she is fantastic! She covers my calendar, content production flow, supplies for our candle factory, brings food, and gives me massages. The bitter part about Sil – she is a refugee from Ukraine with children and our work is… let’s call it hectic. So we try to structure the task flow and use email for this purpose a lot.

    Btw if I took pictures of you during our session and you still didn’t get them, or we have another kind of unfinished business – please send your request to

    sil@sicut-dico.com

    This post is only to start mentioning the people who help me to create this blog and make other things happen. For now, I just list them and link their websites or social media, if such exist, and later I’ll tell you more about each one of them one by one:

    NAMES

    In November, when this post was published and I only started working with Sil – we were preparing to survive the hell season for me.

    This time I was somehow extra irritated by the hallmark teddy bear postcard aesthetics and ended up asking people on social media: if they could create their own kind of postcards that reflect their true feelings, what would they write on that postcard? What would be The Message to send or to receive?

    I got a lot of different answers. Way too many to pick one or 10. So the solution was obvious to me.

    The best message is the one that works for you. So it had to be personal.

    Image drawn by Sil’s daughter on one of my notes and used as a base for the postcard generator, which is going to be available to play with on canbed.one

    Since I like to make things complicated you won’t get the full story of this project right away. Here I only introduce a new team member – Sasha Whiteorcherstra, welcome on board! Soon Sasha will explain the details behind the image on the postcard and perhaps some other mysteries too.

    Thanks for watching!

  • pillow talk with antiShanti

    I met Shanti through the kitkatclub’s dungeon master, Ari, and on the first evening, she taught me how to make a handle for a human.

    Questions for Shanti I gathered from my Instagram audience and one of the popular ones was – how do the scars from body suspensions look like? Here is the answer from Shanti’s back.

    The Pillow talks idea was one of the most ambitious this year, I thought I’d make them once a month. Haha. The next one should be with Ari Denaro, btw. let’s see. Below you can see the key topics with time stamps, and links to videos that I used from Shanti’s Vimeo account.

    This conversation was recorded in two 20 min pieces in my study in Berlin with 10 minutes break, my idea was to make it fast and real. It’s definitely real, I didn’t cut off much material. The “fast” part obviously leaves room for improvement.

    From my pimping side, I’d like to inform you about options to use my service to book a workshop, session, or a show with Shanti in Berlin or Prague, if you need a partner or want to be tied up you can also leave your contact here, or simply write your request to booking@sicut-dico.com. If you are too shy for all that, at least follow her on Insta.

    • 0:30 – introduction
    • 1:30 – ropes or hooks?
    • 6:00 – the difference between traditional shibari and rope art
    • 7:30 – workshop introduction
    • 8:30 – different ropes for different sensations
    • 11:00 – workshop levels and my personal experience
    • 13:00 – about partners for workshops
    • 16:00 – workshops for advanced levels
    • 17:30 – jumps and suspension with hooks
    • 18:00 – Shanti’s first jump and personal experience 
    • 19:30 – rope jumping team
    • 20:30 – how to begin or watch others 
    • 23:45 – scars
    • 25:00 – social media info

    videos used for the background: RopeFest 2020, STILL FALLING FOR YOU ’20 Ropes for Aleksa, Amplitude jump. The Sinner Team, 2010 – all from https://vimeo.com/sashashanti

  • Born weird

    CW: longread, russia, strong personal opinion, (+ full gallery unedited Milk bath by Kay Hues)

    I was born in Siberia, in a town with 700 000 population, but so conservative that the word “bisexual” I learned somewhere in my twenties already in Saint-Petersburg.

    While living in my hometown, I knew that there are gays and lesbians, and both things are “bad”, I knew that I didn’t fit into both, nor did I fit into “normal” teen society. I didn’t call them straight people back then. I didn’t have the concept yet. I just knew: I didn’t fit. I could feel it almost every day. 

    Snowboarders accepted me somehow when I was around 12-13 and, damn, it was a great part of my life since then! I was I weirdo, but thanks to snowboarding – I was a cool one. Also hanging out with older cool snowboarders made me an unpleasant target for bullies. Not without my help of course.

    Very early I learned to use reputation instead of actual fists and to anticipate the fight or start it first but on my own terms instead of ignoring or avoiding possible attacks on my weirdness.

    Back then I hated it. The weirdness I mean. I WANTED SO FUCKING MUCH TO BE JUST NORMAL. But I couldn’t. I couldn’t understand why everyone is so serious and fixed on their gender roles.

    Why should I date guys if I’m attracted to girls too?

    Is it just me?

    What happens if they know that I’m pretending to be one of them, but I’m actually not?

    Why do I feel so much? 

    The only thing keeping me sane throughout my first 16 years of life was traveling and my mom helping me to see the world. She was taking me to different countries and different places abroad. Not just to resorts and beaches, but to capitals, museums, flea markets, theatres, and other places where I could interact with different cultures.

    The magical part about this kind of traveling was that I also realized quite early – weird is not always bad. The world is huge and full of different things.

    I was far from accepting my own weirdness, but I could enjoy the weirdness of other people. And It was giving me hope. 

    When I turned 17 I moved “to the cultural capital” as I liked to call it back then. It was 2003, and it felt amazing after the village where I grew up.

    The bookstore on Nevsky had more than 5 kinds of gay magazines. No one gave a fuck. I was however very confused about my personal interest in gay magazines.

    They WERE CLEARLY NOT MEANT FOR ME. Why was I so attracted then?

    If I ever write a proper memoir, the chapter about my life in Saint Petersburg should probably be called:

    ME, TRYING TO LIVE A NORMAL LIFE, AND FAILING AT EVERY STEP.

    To some people’s standards, I could even call myself successful. I got my first flat. Then another one. I worked in the fashion industry and met some famous people. I had a relationship. Nice one to some people’s standards.

    But I was utterly unhappy. It all just felt wrong.

    Fake. Sad and pointless. 

    As if I didn’t live my life, but someone else’s.

    …

    Photos by Kay Hues

  • Meet Gene and come to our concert

    Gene is like a sibling to me, also a talented artist, passionate activist, and generally a very kind person. But I’m also their manager. Well. We use this word for people who respect the concept of artists being fully dependent on labels and streaming services.

    For everyone else, I’m Gene’s pimp. I’m simply helping them to survive in this shitty world and literally not get fucked by clients or corporations. Fucked in a bad way. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against fucking. But I really care for things to be consensual, and unfortunately, this is not how the world treats artists at the moment.

    If you would be interested to learn more about how I help Gene to gain their independence as an artist, leave a comment.

    Otherwise, we are happy to invite you to our first live concert after the pandemic, link to tickets and more info is here.

  • KitKat alien birthday – pictures & videos

    This party definitely deserves a longer story. It was a private party with free entrance. Someone just bought the basement and us as entertainment. The first gallery and videos are mine. Below there is another gallery by Elad Itzkin Photography.

    Elad Itzkin Photography

  • sexy-couple (letzfetish-guests)

    One of my first nights alone in Kitkat’s basement and this couple really made it cheesy hot!

    They were happy to have pictures and a session with me, and I felt like I did things right that night. I’m especially grateful for the permission to publish the very exact moments. It was a pleasure to meet you guys!

    Huge thanks to Ari for the trust to keep Let’Z Fetish station warm and safe.

    UPD. Now looking back at this night I feel the need to add a remark, expressing how uncertain I was at that moment with everything else in my life. That was the role where I could feel confident and appreciated. For the beginner me it meant the world.

    I think I can pretty much call that a career choice acceptance moment. Once again, thanks to everyone involved. I’m glad to have my perverted family growing every day.

  • day 1

    My palms are sweaty and heartbeat elevates when I´m typing this text. This feeling of excitement and anticipation. I absolutely love it.

    I guess things could never happen in any other way. This post is about the real day One: when I´m kinda going to work and my job will be spanking everyone´s butts. How awesome is that?

    Of course, the story hasn´t started yesterday. But before a was just a trainee visiting the club, then things kinda escalated and thanks to Ari Denaro I ended up being in charge of the dungeon for the very first time. Tonight.

    Having this event on the first weekend of pride month is a special pleasure on top of that. I know it´s July in Germany, but I can´t care less. Pride month should be every month.

    See you in KitkatClub tonight! Join us for workshops and sessions with Let´Z Fetish academy, let’s keep the place safe and kinky together.

  • First wax play workshop with Let´Z Fetish Academy at KitkatClub

    Fascinating. I’m in love with the range of possible play scenarios. How is it that I never cared for candles before?

    Pictures and videos by xshamaya_photographyx 

  • Let´Z Fetish Academy at KitkatClub / Princess and whips workshop – photos and videos

    Another workshop with whips. With every workshop, I was gaining confidence. Tools are just tools and nothing more without the knowledge and experience on using them. Ari was a good teacher. Funny and demanding at the same time. I could smell his experience.

    Princesses do actually exist btw. I found one obviously. She was brave and pretty that night, but it didn’t help her to escape the punishment. 

    Pictures by NirvanaBerni

    Video credit: Let’ZFetish Academy

  • Princess and whips workshop – videos

    Real princesses do actually exist. I found one obviously. She was brave and pretty that night, but it didn’t help her to escape the punishment.