Category: Rules

  • Waxplay performance menu

    Waxplay performance menu

    strategic concept

    As an artist, I’m generally interested in exploring the theme of sex and politics in the same room. I believe it’s still possible not to spoil the party atmosphere, but also to educate and raise awareness while offering new experiences. Please note that I don’t exist solely for entertainment.

    However, as an artist eager to be commercially profitable, I fully understand the need for entertaining activities. So here’s a brief list of possibilities for an interactive waxplay station and shows. My work can be a fast, deep experience that captures all attention for a short time – that’s a package with bogolepov. Alone, I can do all-night performances in a few acts that have different levels of audience interaction.

    As an anti-capitalist, I want to make it clear that I’m open to non-profit work in support of righteous ideas and needs, yet the more commercial the event agenda, the less likely I am to be cheap.

    One sub performance

    This is a great way to get the party started. I can finish setting up my human candlestick in front of the audience, then perform the tests or play with my victim. I usually use the steak thermometer with a needle, and sometimes offer to have the guests help me. Sometimes I ask the victim to hold the thermometer and shout out the number. It all depends on what you want from the show. The softer versions are more elegant. But I can also do more edgy things. It’s important to understand the audience’s expectations.

    Interactive Station

    A station is a place to experiment with different melting-temperature candles, compare them, and learn how to use them safely. When interacting with guests, I personally guide them on how to use the candles, offering safe methods for experimentation or even a quick session. I have several approaches to presenting waxplay and typically choose the one that feels most fitting in the moment while speaking with someone.

    For larger events, I can bring in trained assistants to handle one or two specific scenarios, ensuring more guests can participate while maintaining safety and quality experiences.

    Performances with a group of subs

    I can work on a stage or immerse my show in the venue. 20 years’ experience in event production allows me to guarantee to do the best with what’s available. The more people involved, the more time I need to prepare though. Or more money.

    Waxing myself

    Yes, I can do it in front of an audience (if the audience is safe). I can also talk to people while I’m doing it. Politics or sex? Both, of course. Again, the level of weirdness can vary: I can be dressed up and wax my feet or… use your imagination depending on your budget.

    Immersive performance with sound and video effects

    with Gene, we offer shadow theater performances, sexual healing dance sets and custom installations with other creatives.

    This was originally a summary of a recent conversation with a party organizer. I’ve decided that you all have the right to know what kind of shows I can do.

  • Waxplay 101

    Waxplay 101

    I’m grateful that you decided to try my candles, and if it’s your first time, the basic info below is meant to make your experience safer.

    Please read it carefully before playing!

    what do you need to know about waxplay to enjoy it?

    No hard rules have to be followed apart from consent and safety. Things can be very, very, VERY different:

    • sensual and slow with single drops,
    • intense and intriguing with solid streams of wax,
    • in combination with impact play,
    • mixed with sex toys,
    • also, you can turn your Sub into a human candle holder.

    Whatever you do, you can absolutely do it and, (as other strangers on the internet would confirm, you have the right to choose whatever suits you best to explore your kinks. Do what you like, if it’s safe and consensual, everything else is totally optional).

    Below I only describe things so you might consider them, but only the person lighting up the candle knows exactly how the play will go from there.

    This is where the control exchange begins and all the beauty of it.


    negotiation

    Consensual power exchange starts with respect to this power on both ends. Being in charge is a responsibility! At least this is how I see it.

    Every session must begin with the negotiation stage and the party starts right after. For shy people, I can recommend negotiating some details in text messages (it’s always helpful to give all sides enough time to think things through), but I personally enjoy having little chats with my victims face-to-face about the following topics:

    • safe words (red, green, yellow – always work well);
    • areas on the skin where the wax will be applied and where it should not go;
    • what else is going to happen or what should not happen;
    • where exactly will the play happen (because waxplay can be messy)?

    Wax play is essentially pain play, and even though my candles can be quite mild, the whole point of the game is to produce the chemicals in our brains. And as far as I know for those fuckers pain and pleasure can be exactly the same thing. But how to get there – everyone has their own unique recipe.

    room preparations

    Well, let’s start with the practical side: you might want to care for the furniture, leather surfaces, and carpets because it might be difficult to clean the wax from them.

    You also might want to plan the escape path to the bathroom or shower for your victim.

    If I have to improvise I usually use a bedsheet to cover the floor or wherever the sub is placed, or I cut a few big garbage bags and tape them to the floor, rubber sheet etc.


    A good Pain game takes time and patience

    It starts with making sure everything goes through the steps so the pain level increases slowly. It’s always nice to start with hands. Just spank the spot. Or massage if you want to keep things sensual.

    Everyone is different, don’t assume, ask. Explore together with your partner(s).

    Always try new candles on your own skin. Ask your partner about allergies. Ideally – make a little test before playing.

    do and don’ts 
    • be careful, and remember the pain delay: the drop lands and heats a few seconds longer (try for yourself)
    • do spank, massage, or pet the area before
    • do combine with other practices and sex toys
    • do ask for feedback (at the beginning especially)
    • be creative and enjoy the mess
    • don’t surprise people with waxplay
    • don’t play with intoxicated people and watch yourself with substances
    • don’t ignore the fire safety basics
    • don’t play in an environment or location that will hate you for the wax after
    • don’t use candles as dildos! (they soften from body temperature)

    where to put wax and not 
    • first, start with a 20 cm distance between skin and flame, don get too close to the skin!
    • keep the wax away from the eyes and ears
    • be careful with hair
    • genitals are okay, but only after gaining specific consent
    Removing wax

    Removing the wax from the skin is much easier once it’s completely cooled down.

    Thicker layers of wax fall off in bigger pieces, while single drops might stick to the skin more. You can try to prolong the play and scratch the wax from the skin with nails or something made of metal. Another fun activity is to whip the wax from the skin with a flogger, but I’m not sure if it’s still about basics.

    aftercare

    Give the Subside some peace after the session. No jumping around for the first 5-10 min, and in general the longer the play was – the longer the aftercare should be. Of course, everyone is different, and some people might feel very active and elevated after, while some are tired and empty.

    Applying creme or aloe vera gel on the skin after the session might be very pleasurable and recommended as part of an excellent aftercare protocol.

    After long painful sessions, aftercare is essential and is highly important to help process the experience and leave the most positive memory of the play.

    Have fun! Stay safe and mindfull.

    Your S.

  • As I say

    First things first: this is a queer space where respect is a top priority, so
    please be kind to each other and then feel free to be weird as well. There is no place for judgment.

    Now we get to another important topic. Which is – me, of course. What else could this blog even be about? It´s about my dark side as well as it´s about self-love, acceptance, vulnerability, and control. Or the absence of control for some.

    First I wrote: “It’s about becoming a Mistress.” – but it´s not exactly correct, I have to tell you because there is no becoming of any kind happening inside me. Unleashing – perhaps is a better term. Mistress has been there the whole time, not sure if it´s just her alone. I could describe the process as an inventory of possible personas and characters hidden inside me. Some of them are more ready to get out than others, but I can guarantee, that even for me this is highly fascinating.

    What else? I like to introduce myself as a kind pervert, a passionate exhibitionist, and a curious explorer of the limits and borders of my own and others. On my non-kinky side, I´m a low carb enthusiast, a former marketing strategist, and mental health activist. But this blog also has a sub-task of teaching me to take myself less seriously, so let´s stick to the kinky part.

    Anyways! In my quest for world domination, I decided to start with your butt. So pants down because I will spank it with stories of my kinky explorations.

    If you like what I do consider supporting my work or follow me on social media and help spreading the word about me, whatever you choose, you are welcome here.